Monday, January 26, 2009


My nephew called me about an hour ago. He said he had some news: He's going to be a Uncle.

I'm not surprised by the news (because I saw the announcment on Myspace) but I acted surprised nonetheless. At least I didn't feel like I was being punched in the stomach when he told me so I guess that's one benefit of seeing it on Myspace, eh. Yeah, so his sister's pregnant. She's 21 and will be 22 when the baby is due. She just lost her job and was recently in a car accident so she was pretty freaked out, apparently, when she found out she's pregnant.
Oh, and she has one ovary.
Of course a girl with no job, with a lot of debt, and with ONE ovary is able to get pregnant. Of course. Why not? She, after all, probably wasn't taking her first waking temperature, tracking her cervical mucus, etc. She, after all, probably doesn't even know anything about ovulation or anything much about what some women go through to conceive. Nope. But she's pregnant. (And I'm sure a lot would say it's because she didn't think about conceiving. Fuck off if that's your thought.)
Apparently she was so freaked out over being knocked up that she wanted to abort but my nephew, supposedly, talked her out of it.
And now my 16 year old nephew is going to be an uncle.
And I'm going to be a Great Aunt.
That means that my ex-sister-in-law will be a grandmother at the age of 37. That makes me laugh. She had her daughter, the one that's pg, when she was 16. That's why she'll be such a young grammie.
And while that makes me laugh for a minute, it makes me sad, too. That poor excuse of a mother is going to be a grandmother at 37, and at 36, I'm still not even a Mom.
I guess I should just be happy I don't have a headache today.


Angie said...

So I went back to look at your understanding early loss blog, and it looks like you've made it invite only. I was going to ask for your thoughts on how to talk to a friend who's suffered a m/c or ectopic pg. It's easy to say, "Well, you can be there for them," but how? What's appropriate? What's taking "being there" too far? I was hoping for your thoughts on the subject.

Anonymous said...

Gah, I am crying reading this. WTF? Seriously. I have no words except to say I am sorry. And angry for you.

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